Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Christmas: the day before and after
Listen to this song tomorrow when you are having a bit of a post Christmas let down. Its a good one, and a reminder of what this is all about.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xvM3Lp_BZeQ
Sunday, December 21, 2014
A moment of longing
Saturday, December 20, 2014
Happy 3rd Birthday My Miracle Baby Shane!
There were many days as you were fighting for your life I didn't think this day would come. This road has not been an easy one,. Your strength has fought many statistics and proven doctors wrong. Your smile allows me to see heaven and always be reminded of the TRUE miracle you are. When you throw your fits I remember you are strong willed,because thats how you fought for your life. I will always remember your first word because it was such a tasks for you to finally say it. I know this journey is not over with you and as you grow I continue to fight for you.
My precious Shane, I will not stop fighting for you because you didn't stop fighting when your mom wanted to continually hold you. Shane your mom loves you and I hope you will understand one day that the lord saved you and gave you life when he didn't have to. He has a plan for you and I hope you full fill every bit of it, whatever it may be! You are such a great big brother and I love seeing your personality develop and Change. You were truly a blessing for us. I love you! Mom
Friday, December 19, 2014
The Bully
Wednesday, December 17, 2014
Postpartum depression isn't forever
2 years ago:
I cried. All the time--in the bathroom, in the car. Basically anywhere I was alone. I thought of driving my car off the side of the road into a big ditch, but decided to wait until after Christmas. I wanted Ava to be able to look at pictures of Christmas and have at least one year with me. I was exhausted. I was scared to be alone. I fought with my husband. I yelled at my kids. I had horrible anxiety attacks and flashbacks. I avoided certain things that reminded me of my labor and delivery several months earlier. This was my life. Every. Single. Day.
That is the face of postpartum mood disorders. I was diagnosed with PTSD, and at the time of the diagnosis that's all I had. I did get postpartum depression later, after I stopped seeing my counselor, but at that time I had learned coping mechanisms from my PTSD. Everything about the first 2 years of my daughter's life is cloudy. It was rough to say the least.
Today:
I am advancing in a career that I love. I have some of the best friends I could ask for. I fall in love with my children even more each day and laugh way too much at their shenanigans. And have a husband that would take on the worlds strongest man if I asked him to. While, I had all that two years ago, today The difference is I am happy. I wake up (reluctantly, I hate mornings) knowing that today is going to be great like the day before. I have had my fair share of trials. I lost my grandma recently. Things break down. Kids don't listen. Dishes break at the most inconvenient time. But, deep down, I am happy. And that, my friend, is a miracle.
That is the face of a survivor. That is the life of a warrior mom.
Life doesn't have to end with PPD and related disorders. It does get better. You can do more than survive, you can totally rock life. It does take time. It does take recognition and hope. Seek help. Talk about it. It gets better!!!. I won't lie, I do get moments where my old brain creeps in, but I am able to keep it at bay for the most part. Happiness is something I had to work for at one time, so now, when it so naturally comes, I don't take it for granted.
Friday, December 12, 2014
Dollar Store Decorative Pallet
One styrofoam board
I'm not much of an artist so I apologize for my funny snowflakes! But I hope this inspires you to make your own pallet and get your crafty on! Enjoy!
Wednesday, December 10, 2014
Dear mom
You brought your disabled daughter to a public tea party. I wanted to say thanks for bringing her and showing my kids it's ok to be different. I wanted to say it's ok that she is a little unruly, I get it. I wanted to say, my kids have thrown even bigger tantrums in public. I wanted to say she is beautiful. I wanted to say that I work with children in similar circumstances and it is awesome that you are letting her experience this, even though it's a lot of work. I wanted to say I have had to leave places because my child couldn't take the crowd too. I wanted to.
But I didn't.
I had a chance to possibly make you feel a little bit better, you were obviously worn down. And I didn't.
I don't know why either.
Maybe I will have the strength to next time.
Thursday, December 4, 2014
Christmas Story: The Year of the Flood
Saturday, November 22, 2014
Another Day of Motherhood/Life
You know when you have those weeks that nothing seems to go right or at least those couple days?Well that was my week this week.Of course we all have them and I honestly have had way worse happen in my life, but I think we are all allowed to have the woe me days. I think as a mother we have them often, but I try as hard as I can to not have them consume me. It also helps when you have nice people around you to help you. Huge Plus!
My week started off with my husband waking me up Monday morning at 5:45am saying his car wouldn't start. Unless you have a newborn baby or are heading to work nobody should be up at this time. :) I normally would of just said take the van we just wont go anywhere today which typically happens anyways. However that day Shane my son was getting evaluated by the school district to see if he could qualify for their Preschool. With his speech delay this would be of great importance and there is limited time since his 3 year old birthday is coming up. I also that night had a coupon class at 7pm in ogden which with my husbands work schedule the way it is and his commute he wouldn't be able to get home in time for me to use the car for that either. So I grumbled got out of bed and tried to see what was wrong with his car. It was turning on and lights were coming on but not starting officially. We tried jumping the battery, so on and so forth. Every option we tried. Also this was a VERY COLD MORNING I believe it was around 12 degrees! BRRR that woke me up! The other option was I could take him to the train station, but that meant waking my beautifully sleeping children. Who would be very cranky if I did. Well we waited till more of a proper hour for my boys to wake up and took my husband to train station to head to work.
The rest of the day the boys were cranky. Shane did ok for his preschool testing but toward the end was not handling it well. Jeremy on the other hand threw a fit during a ton of the testing. We got home and my coupon class cancelled on me for a family emergency so once again i felt frustrated. Like I said though I have had way worse!
My week continued with the next day my 19 m old son hitting his head on my open van door and needing to go get stitches....
My son fought and fought during the whole stitches process. He even fought me putting the towel on his eyebrow to stop the bleeding.... He is tough though and we all made it through.... They were both rewarded with a token for the ball machine and they both came home with a bouncy ball. We got home around 3 or so from doctor and I ordered pizza! I was exhausted! After I ordered pizza my sweet friend offered to bring me dinner after seeing on facebook how my day was. I told her that was very sweet and that I had just ordered pizza. The thought alone helped make my day better though! Its amazing what simple acts of kindness can do!
So far the rest of my week had been normal and I hate to be so negative about being a mom because its a wonderful thing and the hugs, and snot kisses they give you make it all worth it! I know with two boys this wont be my last trip to the doctor for stitches but I can hope right? I also continue to amaze myself what I can handle by myself with two boys under 3, just 15 m apart. This was definitely one for the books for sure! Oh and by the way my husbands battery was the issue to his car so that was very nice! Just the price of the battery was it and the time to take it out and in! The auto zone guy said that the battery was only about 50% charged and when he did the slow charging process it remained the same. So it was a bad battery and we got a discount on our new one because the old one ran out before its time!: ) I hope your week was better than mine and that you can find the positive in these hard things that happen in life like I TRY to do. Till next week and hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Emily
Friday, November 21, 2014
The Question
Sunday, November 16, 2014
The moment of truth
Saturday, November 15, 2014
Couponing Rocks
I have mentioned before that I coupon to save money. Since I love it so much I also teach FREE couponing classes to help others save as well. I coupon the very Practical easy way. Some people go crazy like those Extreme coupon er Shows on TLC. Yes I love saving like they do,but the ways they do it is a full time job. No thanks! I like my 20 mins a week I spend on couponing. All I know is that it never ceases to amaze me the savings I get on everyday items. Things you use daily like shampoo, conditioner, laundty soap, toothpaste, body soaps, and the list goes on and on.
Ever since I started couponing I get 50-100 percent off my grocery bill! Obviously not everything you need has coupons like meat,bread, eggs, ete... but you learn to find it when its on sale and stock up when you can.
Couponing is more than just coupons. Its learning how to use them at the right time. and having multiple coupons is a must, so you can stock up on that item till the next sale. Using coupons I also can give my family a stock pile of food and give me more sense of security if something were to happen. Couponing also gives me a way to contribute to the finances since I'm a stay at home mom, the savings is just an incredible bonus!
Happy shopping!
Emily
If you are in Utah and want to learn more I can teach you in my area or lead you to another teacher in many other areas of Utah to learn!
Wednesday, November 12, 2014
From her mouth...
We had a crazy few weeks with my grandma passed away. My 4 year old said some pretty insightful and funny things.
When things were nearing the end she said " this is kind of like the 'Lion King'" I think that statement was just as much for me as it was for her. I has been struggling with how to really explain death and life to her. And that moment it became clear on how I could break it down to her level. Heck, so I could break it down to my level... Because thinking of her face magically appearing in the stars is a lot better than thinking of a world without her in it at all. Due to this statement, we were able to have the discussion I had I visioned but could never figure out how to do.
From her mouth, my prayers had been answered and her innocence showed me just how insightful she is to the world around us.
Sunday, November 9, 2014
Taking some time
Hello everyone!
It's been a while I've taken some time off. We were very lucky to be blessed with a beautiful baby boy 3 weeks ago, he was 2 weeks early I might add.
Was 7lbs 2 oz 20 inches long which is pretty cool because my daughter weighed the exact same when she was born. He is sweet and perfect and nice and healthy and we are enjoying every minute of it. I read Michelles post last Sunday (if you haven't you should) she said it was ok to take some time as a mother just for you and I decided then that is what I'm going to do. I am going to take some time to enjoy the snuggles with my kids and the new baby smell before the holidays and work gets crazy. So today's post is a little short because I'm busy taking a little time for myself and family. But I will be back next week with some fun bridal shower and reception ideas. Thanks for reading and understanding. Don't forget it is ok to take a little time :)
Saturday, November 8, 2014
SIMPLIFYING YOUR LIFE FOR THE HOLIDAY'S
I'm stealing this topic and tools from a recent women s activity for my church. I loved what was said and think the importance of it is high. The upcoming Holiday's can get overwhelming and I hope these tips I stole will help you either this year or next. I know I'm going to try to do what I can also this year. Just remember this is about simplifying so don't feel like you need to do these all at once. These are Tools to use to build the final project.
FIRST TOOL: SET ASIDE FUNDs ALL YEAR: Set a budget for Christmas and what you are going to spend. Then set aside money per paycheck or bonus all year for Christmas. Try to avoid going in to debt just to stress yourself out next year.
SECOND TOOL: BUY EARLY: Make a list of who you are buying for, for christmas and buy early. You can buy a little at a time so we are not all bumping each other in the store and stressed out about all the gifts you need to do at once. I like to try to have everything done by black friday. January usually has incredible deals because everyone is spending their Christmas money so why not try to buy for next Christmas in January?
THIRD TOOL: START EARLY: Try to deliver those neighbor gifts and friend gifts earlier in the month.Who wants another plate of treats two days before Christmas with all the rest of goodies on the table? There are so many cheap and way easy, fun, and creative neighbor/teacher/ friend gifts on P interest or the internet. We are so lucky to have the internet to get these ideas!
FOURTH TOOL: ELIMINATE / DE CLUTTER AND GET ORGANIZED: Pick a room a week,month,day, weekend. However you want to do it and have a box to keep, sell, donate, recycle. The rule that if you haven't used it in a year than most likely you will not use it the next year. Hold a yard sale too and get some money for those unused items. Get rid of clutter how overwhelmed and horrible we feel when clutter is filling up our lives. We get more Christmas gifts and there is no where to put them. This will help with that.
FIFTH TOOL: HAVE A DAILY CLEAN SCHEDULE: Again there are plenty of ideas for this on P interest! This schedule can go along with your children's chore charts but it should have things you do daily, weekly, Monthly. I can get overwhelmed as a young mom trying to keep everything clean but these schedules help minimize your to do list. The lists of these that I have seen will probably take less than 20 mins a day.
SIXTH TOOL: DELEGATE : Delegate the cleaning, wrapping, shopping with others in your family so you are not doing it all on your own. Kids can even help too. We can't do this on our own. WE need help!
SEVENTH TOOL:TRADITIONS/TIME MANAGEMENT: Pick a few traditions and or parties you like to do with your family every year, and eliminate the rest. You will not be able to do every thing that you want. So pick the ones that are most important to you and let the others go. Dont overbook yourself with Parties. Sometimes people spread their selfs thin even deciding who your going where for Christmas. Choose what scenario is best for your family. Its ok to say NO!
FINAL TOOL: COMPARING KILLS: You will see your friends and family doing this and that on facebook or emails. Or you go to a party and hope yours will be just as good. You can't compare what others are doing. Although its easier said than done. What works for your family works for you! Thats what make YOU wonderful and the world go around! Everyone is different and everyone has different traditions! Your party may not be like so and so party but its ok! Dont beat yourself up everyone is different and why add more stress to your holiday worrying about the petty things!
I hope these tools wiill help Simplify your lives and pick which ones you want to do in your families! I have learned a lot from them and I hope you will too! I"m definitely going to use these this year and future years to come. Happy Holidays....:)
Emily
Friday, November 7, 2014
I Support You
Wednesday, November 5, 2014
When vs. Now
Well, now I have all of that. I have a great husband, two spunky daughters, and I am working as a nurse at a great hospital. All my future goals have pretty much happened. So you would think I would be happy and content. But, for some reason being happy and content is not the feelings I have most of the time. I find myself looking to the future yet again, as if right now isn't awesome. But it is awesome! I have no complaints. None.
But you see, my very close friend got a pretty rough diagnosis and her future goals have turned into simply surviving. This has made me really evaluate where I am right here, right now. Because right now things are great. I am learning how to be content with the present, rather than being encompassed by the future. The future might never come, but this moment in time has. We must try to remember that now is good. Now is something to celebrate. The fact that I even have a now is something to praise my Heavenly Father for.
So right now, I will check up on my sleeping kids and give them one last good night kiss, cuddle up to my husband, and say a prayer of comfort for my friend.
Love you all dear readers,
Alicia
Sunday, November 2, 2014
A moment of pain
Saturday, November 1, 2014
Power of Positive Thinking
Through my trials and hardships in my life I try to be thankful and positive. I am part of a group called Intermountain Healing Hearts its a group that helps families with adults or children with Heart defects. This has been a great group to get support and opinions. Every year they have a moms night our or in this case a lunch. Where all the moms of heart children or who have heart defects can meet together mingle and have encouraging words.
This last May our speaker and musician was Hilary Weeks. I remember seeing her perform way back ,hen I attended a Especially for youth conference for my church. She has beautiful music but with her beautiful music she had a beautiful message to all us moms that have very hard days with
these children with sever disabilities. She had heard someone mention that we think about 300 negative thoughts a day. So she wanted to test this out. She got a clicker and everytime she had a negative thought about anything she clicked.... After about seven days of this she noticed a change in her. She was depressed, moody, and overall negative. This counting of negative thoughts were taking over her life. She realized how awful it was to focus on the negative. So she came upon this website. http://www.billionclicks.org/ These were people instead of clicking every time they had a negative thought they were clicking when something positive happens or have positive thoughts. Hilary started doing this and she was amazed at how her life started changing because she was focused on the positive!
This is Hilary Weeks and I.
Thinking Positive is something I have tried hard to strive for and it can be in the very simple things and daily tasks we do. Im thankful I got some sleep last night, I'm thankful we have blankets for these chilly nights, I'm thankful for the heat I have because it keeps me warm. Whatever it is we need to try to think positively in all we do. Being negative brings everyone else around you negativity too. Try to surround yourself with positive things. Music, beauty, family, and friends. That will lift you up. I'm not perfect there has been plenty bad days where negativity takes over,but I just try to start fresh the next day. Since its the start of November think of one or two things a day that are positive or that you are grateful and thankful for. Write them down or post them on your Facebook. Get the negativity out of this world one positive click at a time!
Saturday, October 25, 2014
The Hidden Homemaker
I always wanted the chance to be a stay at home mom with my kids,but I honestly didn't fully comprehend what that meant. I grew up in Southern California and both my parents worked when I was school age. So I was taught how to make meals, I was taught to do chores, I even was taught to sew, sing, play piano. I helped my mom can our jelly every season. These were just to name a few. As a kid you hate these tasks some are more enjoyable than the others, but how grateful I am that these skills were taught to me. My mother worked and she was tired when she came home working a full day. She didn't need to teach me these things, but she did.
I'm kinda tomboyish, I grew up being friends with mostly boys, I loved sports, I was tall so for some reason I felt the girl crowd never really accepted me into "their" culture. Might of been I couldn't find girl shoes that fit me and long pants were hard to find. Or my easy going attitude and hated drama. So as a stay at home mom now I find myself enjoying to do projects, or decorating my home, keeping things organized, baking cookies or I get pride when I have cooked a good dinner and making my families Halloween costumes, its quite surprising to me. I'm surprised that these skills I learned and sometimes hating as a kid to do are getting put to good use and I enjoy them.
I'm grateful I can follow a recipe and make dinner. I'm grateful I can add a button or sew up my husbands pants or shirts instead of running out to get another. I'm grateful I can clean and keep my house tidy and organized. These skills appear more and more as I get more confident as a mom and running my household. I truly surprise myself when my "hidden homemaker" comes out. These are just things/skills that come with being a stay at home mom. I never would of thought I would of need ed those skills that I was taught but I use them daily.
A couple of costumes I did. I sewed all that stuff on both captain america and Thor. Its not perfect but I was very proud of them!
Some of the crafts I did for my son't fire truck themed nursery. I hung them on the walls as seen above.
These skills keep me sane, help our family save money and also gives me an importance and roll in our family. I know my husband is grateful I can do all these things. He saw these skills in me when we were dating and says all the time that's one of the reasons I married you! I think its just kind of interesting to look back, even just when I first got married to see the growth and how the skills were inside have come out. I guess I was always a hidden homemaker and just didn't realize it!